Hi Hindell,

My friend who recently divorced mentioned that she began searching for a job during the divorce process. I am already facing so much change and I don’t know if I am ready for this. Do you recommend starting the job search now, or waiting until the divorce proceedings have finished?

Sincerely,

Too Much Change in Chestnut Hill

Attorneys will disagree on this point.  My view is that divorce is a time for change, and that working provides a positive outlet toward financial independence, an improved sense of self and an important distraction from the sadness of the divorce process.   Even if the new income means that you will receive less in child support or alimony, I think that the benefits of employment, or a more satisfying job, far outweigh the alternatives.  Life cannot be on hold while the divorce process meanders along.  Keep moving forward.  

Best wishes,

Hindell Grossman